Wellbeing

What I’ve Learned From Living Alone For The First Time

As someone whose idea of a good time is being locked alone in their bedroom, living alone has been on the top of my to-do list for the longest time. It’s not the most financially viable option, or even something I seriously considered. But then I started looking for one-bedroom places.

If you’ve just moved into a new place solo, or are seriously considering it, here’s all you need to know.

If you don’t know how to hang out by yourself, you’ll learn fast

Living alone for the first time can be a pretty confronting experience. I mean, unless you call up a friend and make plans to hang, you’re very much on your own, kiddo.

Some people enjoy their own company, while the thought of being alone with just their thoughts is distressing for others (can’t relate). Whichever the case is, you’re going to get super well acquainted with yourself!

It may seem scary, or isolating (and totally can be at times) but it’s also cathartic.

Take up a hobby you can do inside your house – mine was plants. Suddenly I’m not totally alone. I have these dope, leafy little friends to care for and try not to neglect.

It’s also important to note that though it’s important to learn to be content being by yourself, it’s just as important to not isolate yourself. Get out into the sunshine as often as possible, and don’t forget to socialise.

Some of your deepest (and most irrational) fears will be realised

Ever feared of choking to death on a piece of broccoli, or slipping in the shower and not being able to get up? Me neither, until I lived alone.

Whether these fears are reasonable or not is debatable but oh boy, they’re real. All I can suggest is to breathe in, breathe out and chew your food an unnecessary amount of times.

Turns out there are perks to having housemates

Housemates? Who needs them! Well nobody needs them, but you’ll miss them (at least a little) when they’re gone.

No longer will you have to worry about splitting bills because you’re going to be copping all of them in full, baby! That’s electricity, gas, food, internet, rent – the list goes on.

Housemates also sometimes offer good banter, which even if a little annoying at times, you’ll miss when you’re solo. Oh, and if you’re being a total slob and refuse to do the dishes or clean up after yourself, nobody will be there to remind you.

But my theory is, if you’re the kind of person who needs a reminder to do dishes, this is just natural selection coming for you. You’ve been warned.

You should get to know your neighbours

Social interaction? Ha! Good joke.

But seriously, when living alone you should get to know your neighbours – even just one of them.

They’re someone you could leave a spare key with should you ever get locked out, go to if you were ever in trouble or having an emergency or heck, even make a friend out of.

It’s best to do it sooner rather than later. You don’t want a year down the track having to ask a stranger (who lives 10m away from you) for a favour. Could be a little awkward.

Living alone is actually the best thing ever

Living alone is honestly the best thing ever. I will preface this by saying it’s obviously not the ideal situation for everyone but oh boy, I vouch for it big time.

No longer do you need to endure small talk when you’re not in the mood. Never again do you need to share a bathroom. You do what you want when you want. And, arguably, the best part about living alone is that you answer to no fool, ever.

You are in total control. Want to hang out with someone? Invite them over. Want some space? You’ve got tonnes of it. Make the space entirely yours, because it’s entirely yours!

(Lead Image: 30 Rock)


Bradley is a writer from regional NSW and he didn’t come here to make friends, he came to win. He tweets infrequently to his 43 followers @bradjohnston_.